Every good mama worries about whether she is doing this mom thing right? Will the mac and cheese I gave her last night ruin her? How about those gummies she ate-automatic sugar bugs for life. Will she get into college if we miss two days of kindergarten for a family vacation? Okay-I know, that last one is a little extreme, but we mamas worry about things like this. And really, when put into perspective, they are the little things. They aren’t make it or break it decisions. But here is why a successful mother-daughter trip was important to me.
But what I want…is to focus on getting the big things right. And part of that means momming with intent. I want to focus on being intentional about fostering a mother-daughter relationship where she feels known and knows without question that her role in our family is important. Chances are likely that she will not remember the things I have said to her. However, she will remember how I made her feel. I want to create memories and nurture our special relationship because I know that great families aren’t built on accident.
And part of building an awesome mother-daughter relationship means that we need to play!
We need to laugh and make memories and let loose a bit. We need to enjoy each other. And as an added bonus, I like my daughter to see that hard work means that we can splurge on fun. (You’ve gotta tie in all the life lessons!) And a mother-daughter trip is just perfect for this.
And here are some tips for making some great memories!
Get Her Input
Look at your options together. Discuss the budget, possible destinations, and how long you’ll be gone. Will this be a camping trip, adventure trip or hotel and shopping type of trip? If she is old enough, encourage her to do some research with you. Have her talk to some of her friends about trips they’ve gone on and report back. Browse Pinterest together to look at some options. You could even make a shared mother-daughter Pinterest board and begin pinning ideas there. This alone, will tell you so much about what she is into these days.
Do Something She Likes
Talk about the activities you want to try together and plan to do something she really likes. For example, right now my little one is really into horses. So on our mother daughter trip, I made sure that we visited horses. We went to a miniature horse farm to look around one day. And then I sought out a ranch where we could stop and pet pet them and spend time with them a bit. I let her buy a wallet with a horse on it when we went shopping. We did this because it is what she is into right now. So, think about your own daughter. What are her passions and interests these days?
Channel your inner child and build in time for play. Roll the windows down and sing on the drive up! Host some carpool karaoke in the car and sing your heart out to to a playlist of songs that she likes. Take your shoes off and jump on the bed in the hotel room together. Take a night swim in the hotel pool. Order late night room service and eat in front of the tv. You get the idea! Just have fun together!
Learn Something New
Plan for at least one educational or cultural activity along the way. Maybe it’s a stop at a historical site along your road trip. Perhaps there’s a music festival in the park that you can attend. You could even plan to spend a few hours at a museum or on a city bus tour. Or how about a cooking demonstration learning about the local cuisine? The idea is to experience culture and learn something new with one another.
Spend time doing something. The younger your child, the more active you’ll likely be. I mean, these kids have ENERGY! Go for a walk. Spend some time in nature. Take a bike ride together. How about a yoga class in the hotel? Make memories doing something that requires movement. And if it’s new to both of you, that’s even more fun.
Be Flexible and Spontaneous
Travel often requires a good amount of patience. Sometimes there are some unexpected surprises along the way. And with kids, this is basically a guarantee. So, set a realistic itinerary and build a buffer into your schedule so that you won’t lose your mind when the inevitable happens.
And be willing to be spontaneous. When you travel, there are often things you learn from the locals that are better recommendations than what you had planned. Be willing to change a dinner reservation or try a new activity. The locals know best, so ask around take them up on their suggestions. They don’t usually disappoint.
Read about our very first mother daughter trip here.
Now you are ready to plan your very own mother-daughter trip! Be sure to tell me where you go.Who knows, we may just find ourselves there next time.